"You don't have to jump" says Tom Hanks' character to his young son, Oskar.

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In the scene, Thomas Schell is trying to coax his son, Oskar Schell, into trying swinging at the park. His story is about how much more exciting swinging got for him when he learnt to propel himself and jump off. He tells the boy the above and I found it comforting. You can try thing out but only do what works for you -- just because others are doing something it does not mean you have to push yourself to that level. Do what feels right  but always try.

I watched this film hours ago and it really struck a cord with me. It's a lovely meditation on growing up, kindness, grief and searching for something even when you don't know what it might be. Searching for something (and everything) even when the probability of failure and heartbreak is high. In the scene where Oskar says "I wish it had been you" (paraphrase) and his mum is all "saaaame" and he realises, for what seems like the first time, that she's also hurting, also stands out.

I was, at times, made uncomfortable by how rude Oskar is, i.e to the guy in the lobby of the building in which he lives. Watching this film made me want to read the book. Or at least have it lying around in  plastic bag on top of my mother's wardrobe, for when I'm able to shut my mind up and read.

Special mention to viola Davis for existing, always.